The Marriage Train
Do you ever feel like you just don’t love your spouse anymore?
The fact is, love is not dependent on our feelings and emotions. The fact is feelings come and go. None of us always feels intensely romantic and loving toward our spouse.
In a genuine love relationship, there are times of closeness and caring, but there are also times of distance and disinterest.
And worst of all, there are times of apathy when a couple feels nothing at all. Emotions are very unstable. And you can’t build anything so permanent on something so shaky.
The key to a lifelong love is found in a commitment of the will, which is like the engine on a train. It’ll keep you moving down the right track. Once you make up your mind to have a successful marriage, no matter what, you’ll no longer be shaken by the ebb and flow of emotions.
Which end of the train is pulling your marital relationship? It’s a question worth pondering.
Excerpt from “Focus on the Family” By Dr. James Dobson
From TODAY, Voices, July 20 2009
《婚姻列车》
你是否曾经对自己的伴侣失去爱的感觉？
事实上，爱绝不能依赖感觉和情绪；尤其感觉这东西，总是飘忽不定。我们当中，没有人能够对自己的另一半，无时无刻都充满浪漫与激情。
真挚的爱情，时而沉浸于亲密与关爱中，时而又让人觉得疏离、冷淡；甚至偶然无缘无故兴趣索然，情绪波动。而你，总不能把永恒寄寓在空幻。
永恒的爱，有须建立于不渝的承诺，就像列车的引擎，引领你在正确的轨道上行驶。
一旦你决定追求美满姻缘，无论在任何状况之下，都不会受情感波澜动摇。
那么，你婚姻列车的目标到底在那里？这是个值得深思的问题。
摘录自詹姆斯杜布森博士的《关注家庭》
今日时报，「声音」，09年7月20日。
（北雁、晓虎合译 ）www.sbchua.com
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今天转载北雁的一篇翻译作品。
离婚率越来越高，由不得我批评。只有当事人才知道他们分手的原因。婚姻需要双方一起经营，假如一方想放弃，另一方再怎么纠缠都没用。
假如你刚好面对和伴侣冷淡期，试想想你们当初在众人面前念婚约，交换戒指时，甜蜜蜜的样子。婚姻遇到的疲累真的就这么容易让你放弃吗？婚约是不是已失去它的价值？
